Hello! Happy new year! I hope you are well, and that the new year is going well for you, as little of it as has passed. Mine so far has been wonderful; this deserves a post all to it's very self, but I had a lovely lovely time with some of the most incredible people!
Last year, the New York Times published a list of '36 Questions That Lead to Love'. The idea is that you sit down with a stranger, and ask these 36 questions, and that that will lead to love (though there's a bit of staring into each other's eyes, too, because of course). I'm not sure that I believe that this is a valid thing, however, I thought the questions looked interesting, and wondered what would happen if I sat down with someone and we went through them.
The year passed, and either I forgot, or it just didn't happen. A bit of both.
Then, behold, this morning, neither Little One nor I could sleep. This is part of a long and wonderful story about New Year, which I will post at some other point, but basically, we ended up in a separate room to everyone else (so we wouldn't wake them up!), drinking tea and knitting at 4am. We were also discussing life, and, as we said, getting quite deep.
Which reminded me. The questions!
I found the list, and suggested to Little One that we go through them. Because, why not? I wanted to go through them with someone, and there is no one better than Little One, plus it seemed like a good time. Being Little One, she very much agreed.
So off we went, asking the questions and both providing the answers. It took us a couple of hours (though we did spend half an hour just on one question), and was really interesting. We talked about lots and lots, and shared lots and lots. We hugged, and laughed, and bonded. It was really really wonderful. In fact, given that it was just 2016, I don't think there could have been a better way to spend the first part of the New Year, but that's by the by.
I don't know whether the questions could make strangers fall in love, but in terms of making two people closer and providing a deeper/more meaningful relationship, I think they succeeded; it was so great, just to take time to talk and get to know one another better. Because, you know, Little One is my best friend, but there is always more talking to do. We both agreed that we felt closer, and that we knew each other better. It was also wonderful, because a few of the questions are related to positive traits about the other person, and things you like about the other person. Those were particularly lovely to answer, because it is always nice to tell someone you love the reasons why you love them. Obviously, it would be different for a stranger. But for friends, it is wonderful. I am so glad we did it, and I think (hope!) my partner-in-crime is too.
I don't know about falling in love, but in terms of increasing love, these were a good move. I'm really intrigued, now, though. I still don't think they could make two strangers fall in love, but I would like to see how asking and answering the questions would go with someone you know, but not really. Hence, volunteers wanted?! If you, like me, are interested by human dynamics and how relationships of all sorts are formed, and just have a huge curiousity about a life that isn't your own, maybe we could get together sometime- to sit, get coffee, and answer 36 questions. If you are interested/intrigued, the link to the questions is at the top of this post, and I am right here- drop me a message!
Lastly, I would like to finish with a shout out to the wonderful Little One, for being one of the most incredible people I know, and for 2016 having the best start it could have had- knitting, and tea, and lovely bonding. A shout out to Little One, because of course.
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